So, this is so embarrassing and I hate to admit to it but here it goes: I've always believed I was NOT a jealous person and I had to come face to face with the little green eyed monster this week. So I searched and asked everyone the question how do I get rid of it or at least transform it?
It feels awful doesn't it? So after a night of chatting with a few soul-sisters it dawned on me that tantra - what I have been dedicated to practising for over two years now was the answer.
As I understand it in Tantric relating when you feel aggression coming on (and you want to devour the other person) that's when you take a step back and allow that energy to cleanse through you to create an inner peace instead of that wanting more feeling. So with being Jealous it was a matter of 'backing the Heck down' and coming back to myself peacefully.
I guarantee you will never be able to control another enough to assuage your jealousy - which is really what it's all about. All you can do is: back off, breath cleansingly through your body, let go and love yourself and the other - unconditionally. Whew. Don't worry this can take time and practice but it can work! It can also help to embody why you're so great and why whoever it is you're jealous of would actually really be lucky to be you too - because hey, you're pretty special. Coming from that place of equality can do wonders for quelling jealousy.
I totally look forward to hearing your stories of overcoming green-eyed-ness as we can all use a little perspective sometimes, and I'm sure it won't be the last time for me either - but I'm workin' at it~
So Much Love,
P.s. I'm being a featured writer in an e-zine soon and have another book reading coming up in the fall - more on that soon! xo