I'm writing this blog at the very last moment of summer vacation (for me) because I've been soaking up all the sunshine, beach and deliciousness that August has to offer - even the tough stuff! You heard me right, even the tough stuff. For example, three weeks ago tonight I walked away from a romantic relationship (that I really wanted to work out) why? Because I learned he was just kickin' it with me - and you know what, no one likes to be kicked.
So if you don't know him believe it or not the man to thank is comedian Steve Harvey. Now I'm not saying everything in his book is gold but for the time as I was dating this guy it came in as a fantastic resource to see where this man was at in his life - and if he was actually relationship material or just playin'.
And you know what, he clearly was not ready for a relationship and Steve gave me the questions to ask to suss that information out, because let me tell ya, the 'baby's' and sweet kisses sure can make it hard to see your way through the man thicket = a micket?
Anyway, the book is called Straight talk, no chasers and like my book (My Year Off Men) it's really about putting yourself first - but this one was written by a man! Finally the inside scoop to add, I hope to what I wrote. So without giving away the contents I totally suggest the 5 questions you need to ask any man before you get in too deep (and let me know how it goes) Hint: A man who is ready for a relationship will want to answer your sweetly put questions about his goals and dreams and then some. This is because he will have a plan and either know who he is and what he wants or be taking steps in his life right now to get there. Who-ya!
All I can say is that without Steves' help I would still be repeating the pattern of not being clear on how a man thinks and still be in the sport fish zone - no thanks!
Luv and So much Light Sister! xoxo