My friend and I were walking the other morning and she voiced what I had been thinking the whole Christmas week. “Is this it? I am NOT doing this again.” Now I am not talking about writing off our family what I am talking about is creating a family of spiritually picked loved ones that I will resonate with and connect with the next go around. On the solstice, one of my new framily (friend+family) members invited me to a pot luck - I hesitated “I follow a vegan diet” I said, totally ready to hear her hedge, but she didn’t. Instead she said “No problem! Lets make it a vegan pot luck.” I have to say, in that moment I was so thankful to have someone ‘get me.’
The thing is another soul sister of mine said when she goes home she gets put right back in the place where her family feels she fits - ahem, 10 years ago maybe. And that’s the thing, if we don’t stand our ground and communicate who we really are now, we stand the chance of getting run over in the holiday rush. I sure did and I have Christmas eve and Christmas day crying to prove it. Now was my family was a little insensitive? Maybe. But what I am trying to get across here is that it is my duty to COMMUNICATE my needs to them so that next year I end up laughing two days straight instead of crying. So for my new years resolution I am going to work on communicating my needs to others who may have no idea who I have become but who still really want to know me. That’s worth another try on both our parts. And until then I will continue to increase the size of my ‘framily’.
So how was your holiday? Just know that whoever we are we all struggle and I am here to tell you that you are not alone. So if this resonated with you please share it with three friends and leave your comments below. Tell me how you coped this holiday season-I really want to know.
So much love and New Year’s Hope~